Mar 31, 2017 – by Kim Poplaski, MARE Recruitment and Licensing Specialist, and Andi Kraker, Licensing Specialist, Bethany Christian Services of Michigan, Grand Rapids
It’s not unusual for foster parents to feel anger.
You see how the child is hurting to be separated from their family.
You see how trauma and neglect affect the child’s physical, cognitive, and social development.
You see how the child struggles to trust and finds it hard to fit in and make friends at school.
You see the child’s disappointment when a parent visit is postponed.
You see the brokenness in systems and in people that let something bad happen to the child.
Your anger might stem from a parent’s false promise that “you’ll be coming home soon.” And you as the foster parent have to be the one to reset the child’s expectation and experience the resulting meltdown. Or maybe the parent doesn’t seem to be doing everything they’re supposed to be doing to regain custody of their child.
Foster parenting is not for the thin-skinned. Kids who struggle to regulate their own emotions take their cues from us, so we need to work extra hard to regulate ours.
Families come to Bethany hoping to adopt a child for many reasons. We work closely with these families to identify their strengths and the child they are most able to parent and we help place children of all ages, cultures, and backgrounds in the safety of a loving home.