Do you subscribe to the “men make the first move” idea? If you do, you may want to check this article out from Ruthie Dean I found in Relevant Magazine. ~Randi
Stop Waiting for Him to Ask You Out
Taking a second look at the idea of “men initiate, women respond.”
We all know how hard it is to land a date with a good man, both statistically and anecdotally. We’ve heard about prolonged adolescence and know how The New York Times suggested the word “date” be stricken from the dictionary because no one is really “dating” anymore. Added to all this are the common Christian teachings for women seeking romance:
1) God calls us to wait.
2) We can’t ask him to tell us how he feels or clarify his intentions because that’s “taking matters into our own hands.”
3) If a woman initiates, even just once, she’ll set a pattern that could lead to a marriage in which he’ll never be the spiritual leader.
4) He’ll pick up on your hints, so there’s no need to be explicit with your feelings.
5) Flirting will make him stumble.
We talk about “biblical dating,” but since there was no modern concept of dating in the Bible’s historical context, what does this really mean? Is the mandate that women should not initiate a biblical idea? Are women in danger of dominating their future husbands because they suggest hanging out one on one? Is it really God’s will for women looking for “the one” to wait and be patient?
When we take a closer, more critical look, we find these rules are not necessarily based in biblical teaching. I believe Christian men are called to lead—but that doesn’t mean women have to lose their voice.
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